If you are like the vast majority of men, you surely neglect a fundamental skill in eduction:  Your ability to send good text messages and messages to women, or Chinese girls in particular. Yet what could be more frustrating than to seduce a woman, to get her number (which she gave you easily because she looked interested) … Then gradually see her lose interest in you over the messages you send her.

In this kind of situation, the basic reaction of a man is to blame the girl. He will say to himself:“She is not reliable”, “she doesn’t care about me”, “she’s just a tease” etc …
But by refusing responsibility for your failure, you risk missing a gaping FAIL in your seduction game …A flaw that is not so hard to fill.

In any case, if today you are like most men, you are probably committing one (or some) of the mistakes I am going to reveal below. Subtle mistakes that can annihilate your chances of seducing a woman. Here without waiting for the Fatal Errors that men commit when they exchange with a girl by SMS or message … …

Mistakes #1: Believe that because she answers you, she is attracted

The fundamental mistake made by the uninitiated man is to believe that because a woman responds to her messages, she is attracted to him.

When he receives an answer to his message, he mistakenly believes it is a sign that he is getting closer to his goal of seeing and going out with that woman.

But it’s exactly the opposite!

The more you send messages to a woman before seeing her again in an appointment …
Less you’re lucky to see her again !!

You read me well …
Even if a woman ANSWERS your messages, you are not necessarily getting closer to an appointment with her.

So, how to counter this problem?
Say more by saying less!

Let me explain…When you’re wondering what to write to a girl, try to get your message across as simply and succinctly as possible.

Most men constantly send messages of no interest to women.

SMS like “How was your day?” ” Or “Did you enjoyed the beautiful weather today? ”
These messages do not help you to get closer to a woman, to create a connection with her, or to increase your value in her eyes.

On the other hand with this kind of messages, a woman will see that your only goal is to get an answer from him ( which in itself has no interest ).

To make sure that you never mess up a message with uninteresting blah-blah …
Ask yourself the sacred question :How will this message help me see the girl again?

If your answer is “it’s not going to help me” or “this message is just going to help me know it better” …Do NOT send this text message!

Mistake #2: Look Boring

Here is something to keep in mind …When a woman gives you her number, she doesn’t sign a contract in which she promises to see you again.

And as long as she doesn’t say it’s going to be FUN to see you …She will not make the effort to meet you for a drink, a restaurant or a Netflix plan at home!

When you send hollow, boring, or unadorned messages to a woman …She will tell you that you are not worth the trouble that she spends time with you.

Here are some signs that show you are NOT fun in your communication:You are too formal with messages like: “Hello, I was delighted to meet you on Saturday …“You put too much pressure on her to answer your messages by asking useless questions.

You bombard her with questions, in interview mode for a job.

Remember that every message you send must make you look like a FUN guy, with whom she will want to spend time and forget about her daily routine, often without much interest…

Mistakes #3: Do not Leave the Lot

Now here is a sad truth …If you are texting with a woman, be certain of one thing:
You are NOT the only man on the spot! (Especially if she is pretty!)

Sorry to be the one who tells you this bad news …But between the other guys who are dredging her right now, her ex who haven’t dropped the case, her colleagues or classmates, etc …

A pretty woman has many men who “fight” for her attention.

So if you want to stand out, your messages should highlight your personality, your “style”.
A woman should be able to recognize your style and know that it’s a message of yourself without seeing your name (as Phone used to sing, “it feels like you are” !)

So what words, expressions, punctuation or emojis do you characterize?

Mistake #4: Having Exchanges Too Long

Smartphone conversations are DIFFERENT face-to-face conversations.

Your message exchange should be the equivalent of a summary of the highlights of a traditional conversation.

Which means that you have to purge from your SMS conversations all the formalities and boring moments or whatever.

However, the more you exchange with a girl by messages, the more likely you are to fall into one of these registers to avoid.

Whenever you take your smartphone, go directly to the fun and interesting things. Anecdotes, a private joke, a funny nickname …Find a way to arouse an emotion in the woman you pick up, so she gives you her full attention.

Mistake #5: Offer Him a Meeting Before Creating a Good “Vibe”

If you propose a meeting to a woman before having managed to bring positive emotions to her home … You can be almost certain that she will decline the invitation.

Why? Because the positive emotions she may have felt during your first meeting have inevitably fallen.

And the idea of ​​having to get ready put on makeup and go meet a man she barely knows (and who could potentially be a pervert, a loser or a weird guy) can deeply cool her down.
From you to me, a girl will have no trouble convincing herself that it’s not worth moving to a first date.

… And that’s why you MUST first make her feel a lot of emotions like fun, mystery, surprise, etc …It’s just MUCH easier to get a “yes” from a woman to whom you have previously experienced good emotions in your SMS exchanges.

Mistakes #6: Becoming Too “Predictable”

Say you managed to get an appointment with a woman.

You may think that you can relax your efforts in your messages.

Still, nothing needs to change if you want to CONTINUE to see a woman again after the first appointments.

So to begin, you must never become too predictable.

Many men abuse the same jokes, the same questions, and the same messages.
It is quite natural to fall into ease with a woman with whom you go out … Yet you must avoid at all costs this through.

Be able to surprise her from time to time with messages she does not expect.
Tell him that you have a “surprise” to show him the next time you see her. (You really need to have one)

Tell her that something made you think about her today but do not tell her what it is right now. Let the mystery hover …Send him a delirious message or a funny picture. Ask him to do the same.

If a woman doesn’t know what to expect with your messages, her interest in you will grow stronger.

And then with some good messages loaded with emotions and sexual tension, you also prepare the ground for wild and hot nights …

Mistake #7: Belief it’s “Different”

I will never repeat it enough …Never reveal to a woman by text what you feel for her.
I receive monthly messages from readers or clients that explain to me that they have “cracked” by revealing their feelings to a woman in a suicidal SMS.

And each time, unsurprisingly, it makes the girl run away.

In your mind, at one time or another, you will try to convince yourself that “this girl is different” …That you can play fair with it.

But the second you start thinking about a woman …You commit to the path of failure and disappointment with it.

I continually see men making these mistakes with the woman they desire: Send him too many messages

Send him to rave compliments by SMS? the kind of messages an obsessive fan would send to his favorite star!

Do not dare to invite him to an appointment for fear of rejection …And each time, these men expose themselves to the same negative consequences.

THIS woman who pleases you so much is NOT different from others.

Whenever you start thinking about it, take out your phone and read this article again! ????
Good…Now that you know the 7 major mistakes to avoid when sending messages to women.

Now it’s your turn!

By Selina Chan


  1. I have questions to Selina Chan but there is no pm e-mail anywhere. This is regarding Chinese/Hong Kong girls whom I recently met online recently and I like to develop into long term. Please let me know if possible to my gmail


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